Making space for the man of my dreams
You know what they say about a plumber’s toilet? Or what it looks like under the hood of a mechanic’s car? Yes, I am generalising and yes, it’s probably far from being true, but the point I’m trying to make is that we often don’t follow our own advice.
Ok, I don’t always follow my own advice. Somewhere on my blog is a 21-day plan for manifesting my soulmate the Law of Attraction way, and yet here I am still single because I didn’t stick with the plan.
I just don’t feel like I’m good enough for the man of my dreams.
Not pretty enough, not smart enough, not driven enough…I’m one of those people whose ducks are all over the place so I just convinced myself that I preferred being single. The truth? It would be really nice to have someone to share my life with.
With 2016 coming to an end, now is as good a time as any to end this woe-is-me attitude and create some new good habits: I’m going to follow my own advice and manifest that darned soulmate! Because I’m a darned catch!
Here’s where my own advice comes into play…
I’m a huge fan of the Law of Attraction (LOA). The way the LOA works is that your thoughts become your feelings, your feelings determine your vibration, and your vibration determines what you attract.
So…if I’m going to be spending too much time thinking that I’m not good enough, that I’m not relationship material, or that I’ll never have a successful relationship, true as Bob, I’ll attract people and situations that make me feel like I’m not good enough and that I’m not relationship material. And that’s exactly why I’m not in a successful relationship.
If, on the other hand, I consistently focus on thoughts that make me feel better, I’ll attract better experiences. It’s the law.
A common way to demonstrate the Law of Attraction is through the example of the tuning fork first used by Dr. Masaru Emoto
Emoto works with three tuning forks. Forks 1 and 2 are designed to vibrate 440 times per second, while Fork 3 vibrates 442 times per second. When he hits Fork 1 with a rubber hammer, Fork 2 immediately vibrates and gives off a sound because it resonates with Fork 1. However, Fork 3 remains silent. This shows that energies vibrating at the same frequencies somehow find each other.
How do you vibrate at high frequencies? By always choosing better-feeling thoughts.
So what happens if I simply change the way I think over 21 days? I’m going to try.
According to the LOA, if you’re completely and truly aligned with the best version of yourself, you’ll effortlessly attract people and situations that fit into the vision you have for your life. It really is that easy.
So over the course of the 21 days, I’ll be taking my rightful place as the powerful creator of my life the way I want it to be because when I make feeling good my primary purpose, I’ll automatically attract people and events that make me feel even better. It’s the law.
Would you like to join me?
The hardest part of the challenge takes place on Day 1. The aim of Day 1 is to develop a crystal clear goal that will serve as your inspiration for the next 21 days.
Step 1: Decide on a goal
You’re reading this so I think it’s safe to assume that your goal is to manifest the partner of your dreams in 21 days, maybe you’d prefer to meet a few options from which to choose, or perhaps it’s even just a companion or a friend. Decide on something you’re comfortable with and as your confidence in the LOA grows, so can your goals.
I’ll go first. For this challenge, I plan on manifesting the man of my dreams.
Step 2: Acknowledge the negatives
In this step, you can finally put all the negative experiences from your past relationships to good use. Part of the fun that goes into manifesting the partner of your dreams in the 21-Day Manifest Test is to pay attention to the negatives. When you know what you DON’T want, you automatically know what you DO want.
So, based on the negative experiences of the past, what characteristics do you NOT want in the love of your life? Here I’ll list some of the general negative characteristics, but when you create your own list, be sure to add the deal-breakers that made you walk away from relationships or dates in the past.
- Selfish, insecure, co-dependent…
- Selfish, jealous, insecure…
- Unambitious, lazy, poverty-conscious…
- Bitter, spiteful, vengeful, mean…
- Angry about life, ex, job…
Step 3: Turn the negatives into the opposite, positive desires
Now that you have the negatives, write the story of your dating life by turning the negatives into the opposite, positive desires. For example, where I’ve listed “dishonest”, my story could describe a relationship with someone who is honest, faithful, and trustworthy.
Tips for writing your story:
- Include everything you love about your partner and your relationship and how it’s made your life so much happier, richer, and joyful. Use positive affirmations such as “love” and “appreciate”, and be as descriptive as possible using words that appeal to the five senses.
- When you’re writing your new story – and this may be a tough one but it is an important one – is to be appreciative of your past relationships for creating in you a desire for this new, amazing love-of-your-life relationship.
- Once you’ve turned your negatives into positives, build into your story all the attributes that you loved about your past relationships and that you would like to manifest in your new one.
- According to the LOA, all negative stories have a purpose and that purpose is to help us formulate a positive new story. So once you have the new story, let the old ones go because you have no further use for it. Ever!
Try the Law of Attraction in your day-to-day life.
Just repeat your new story to yourself every day for 21 days. For example, the new story of my new relationship would go like this:
I love that I’ve met the man of my dreams! I truly appreciate that he is kind, honest, faithful, trustworthy, and gorgeous! And that he thinks that I am gorgeous, too. I am so appreciative that our love is built on mutual respect. I love that we both enjoy a healthy lifestyle that balances body, mind, and spirit. I am grateful that we have an abundant life that allows us the freedom to buy everything we need and go everywhere we want. I absolutely love that he’s as passionate about the Law of Attraction as I am! It makes me incredibly happy that he is a conscious creator of his own life and that he approaches life’s adventures from a perspective of love and understanding. I am so grateful that together, we inspire others to do the same. And I am truly, truly, truly grateful for the men in my past for the lessons they have taught me that have brought me to here.
The reason the challenge is for 21 days is because that’s how long it takes to form new habits. Over the next 21 days, we’ll be replacing our self-limiting thoughts with these brand new ones by repeating them daily.
Let me know how it goes in the comments below!
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"I write because I don't know what I think until I read what I say." Flannery O'Connor